Sam Lopez previously wrote:
I was also thinking that many of us came into GC because we were looking either for “mother” or “father” or both. This relates to attachment issues. We felt loved by a community and spiritual parents. Some of us were looking for mentors, etc. At some point these parents failed us. In my own journey, I have had to process that my traumas with GC relate deeply to issues of parentification, infantilization, masculinity issues, with some women the masculinization of their womanhood, etc. Many of us were carrying our umbilical chords in younger years and looking for somewherer to plug them. We had incomplete development before or even after. I’m not saying this applies to all, but my experience has been that it does apply to most. Especially in the campus ministries.
For total healing with GC issues I have had to go into my own attachment deficits and disappointments and vacuums. GC was simply an entity that became a surrogate mother/father.
There may be an element of truth. That certainly described my setup. It may be a plausible scenario for another former member. Confidentiality issues prevent further detail. At least I can nod in agreement. Thanks for the confirmation. I needed that.
