Has anyone been told
You are seeking your own desire (if you don't feel led to do something that is church ordained)
Or
He who separates himself seeks his own desire
that verse was thrown out there alot anytime you didn't want to come to a meeting or do something the elders wanted to do.
I was given that whoever loses his life will gain it, especially after sharing a poem with those close friends. One friend miles away emailed me and told me I was being selfish just like the rest of my family.