This was posted on another group I'm on -- totally unrelated to GC*, it's a dog lovers' group!! But the person who posted is from Minnesota and I instantly thought of the GC churches in that state. Now, I have no idea whether or not the church involved is GC, but it doesn't really matter, I suppose. It's sad that this goes on at all.
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Little Rant...Please Indulge Me
Ok, so I'm a youth minister by trade, currently in grad school at a seminary. I'm sitting in Caribou Coffee getting some work done and in walks a teenage boy and an adult man. They sit at the table next to me and begin talking. It's obvious that this is a youth member of an area church and his adult mentor. I'm thinking, "Oh, that's so nice to see..."....I'm a big advocate of mentorship relationships for teens. They can use all the love and support they can get during those difficult years.
And then I start catching bits and pieces of their conversation and I want to strangle the mentor. I keep trying in vain to mind my own business, concentrate on my book, and I keep catching their conversation. It seems the teenage boy is a graduating senior this year and wishes to attend a different church near the college he will be attending in the fall. The mentor is lecturing him about how "he wishes that he had a mentor like himself in his life even today", that the kid "owes it to the church to be involved there longterm", that he "can't support his decision", wants to pray with the kid for "proper guidance"...And I'm sitting here thinking, "Oh my gosh...this is EXACTLY why Christianity, the church, and youth ministry gets such a bad reputation. What the hell is this guy doing to this poor kid?! To mentor is to SUPPORT that student and LOVE them no matter where they go in life. That means through the worst of life, be it drugs, dating mistakes, school, peer pressure, whatever. The kid wants to attend a different church and he's being ridiculed?! ******* Maybe it's the right choice for this kid and maybe it isn't, but it really makes no difference. Encourage, love, support - no matter what. Is that such a hard philosophy?!
Needless to say, I had to put down my books, plug in my headset and crank up the music so that I didn't butt in and say something. I'm so p****d.
Thanks for listening...