Right when I first came around it was “Let’s go our for Ice Cream”. That eventually died out because people were attributing Ice Cream with rebuke.
for me it’s “Let’s go out for coffee!” That’s where I was taken when I was being stupid - and it’s definately worth mentioning that I’ve been rightfully rebuked very many times for being unnecessarily rude, unforgiving, foul-mouthed and power-hungry when I was younger.
I think I’ve only actually rebuked two people. It was at the same time. They had told a new guy that had just started coming around and hanging out with me (and had a Catholic background) that they thought Catholics didn’t know God, dating was wrong (he had a girlfriend), and they had been generally cold and standoff-ish to him. After he left our group permanently in bewilderment, I took them out for coffee. Even then, one of them didn’t even realize she had been “rebuked”. I asked alot of clarifying questions and shared about the new guy’s background and tried to come up with a plan, “So when another person like XXXX comes around, and he believes in XXXXX, what do you think would be the best way to respond to his beliefs with respect and love?”
The “let’s go for a walk” story bothers me immensely. Of course we’ve all got sin in our lives. Has anyone read Romans?! The rebuked person in that story could have shot right back - “Not any worse than your pride, ‘brother’.” He would have been deemed proud, defensive, and quarrelsome. He was trapped and went the only direction he could - humility. The other option was the door.
