You guys might appreciate this stuff:
The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse
http://kerussocharis.blogspot.com/2006/03/subtle-power-of-spiritual-abuse.html What To Do If You Find Yourself In a Spiritually Abusive Religious System
http://kerussocharis.blogspot.com/2006/03/what-to-do-if-you-find-yourself-in_11.htmlSpiritual Abuse
http://www.watchman.org/profile/abusepro.htmCults and Spiritually Abusive Churches: Recognition, Response, and Recovery
http://members.aol.com/djrtx/c-abuse.htmHow Can I Discern Whether I'm in a Healthy or Abusive Fellowship?
http://www.batteredsheep.com/faq_healthy_fellowship.htmlIs Your Church Free from Cultic Tendencies? A checklist for Responsible Christians
http://www.batteredsheep.com/checklist.htmlWhat Language Does Your Church Speak? The Language of Abusive Churches and Groups
http://www.batteredsheep.com/church-speak.htmlOh I like this one:
"Lord's Day Bible Institute Classes" (also known as "Sunday School", in some groups and churches called "Sabbath School"): "Mandatory meetings where attendance is strictly recorded and the peculiar doctrines held by the church are repeated numerous times over many years until your brain is numb with boredom and you are thoroughly convinced that there can be no other truth and you have begun to lose the ability to think for yourself. To miss one of these meetings is a grave sin and indicates that you may be 'apostate'."
--reminds me of the leader meetings/Institute/etc. which the leaders are not allowed to miss and are made to vow that they won't miss them...or that it will be very rare.
Abuse of Authority in the Church A Biblical Perspective of Leadership
http://www.batteredsheep.com/abuse.htmlAuthoritarianism In The Church
http://www.batteredsheep.com/authoritarianism.htmlAbusive Churches
http://www.batteredsheep.com/abusive.htmlAbusive Churches: Leaving Them Behind
http://www.batteredsheep.com/abusive_02.htmlUncovering Churches That Abuse People
http://www.batteredsheep.com/uncovering.htmlThe Cult Church by Marlene Jones-Skurtu
http://web.archive.org/web/20070607150548/http://www.excult.org/cultc.htmlEight Distinctives Of An Aberrational Christian or Bible-based Group
http://www.neirr.org/s7-aber2.htmlThe Power Abusers When follow-the-leader becomes a dangerous game
http://www.apologeticsindex.org/a08.htmlRecovery from Spiritual Abuse How You Can Help By Sharon Hilderbrant, M.A.
http://www.dtl.org/cults/article/abuse.htm