Jim McCotter has a series of Facebook videos which, until now, I've had zero interest in watching. Recently, however, a new member of this forum posted a heartbreaking account of being abused by his GC parents, who were allegedly following the teachings of McCotter. (
Edit: I used the term "allegedly" because GC and McCotter followers have, from time to time, threatened to sue the members of this forum. It doesn't mean that I doubt the stories people have posted here.) Then, shortly after that was posted, McCotter created a Facebook video on child discipline. I watched that one for about 40 minutes before deciding that I had heard enough. Here are the main points McCotter made, along with some of the proof texts he used. I've transcribed his comments as accurately as I can, but added my own emphasis where it seemed helpful.
Basic ideas in the video:
1. Children are foolish, i.e., "silly." This foolishness is an outworking of sin.
2. This foolishness can only be removed by discipline.
3. Discipline is, by definition, spanking.
4. Discipline must be applied to children from infancy through adolescence.
Supporting verses:
1. Proverbs 22:15, "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him."
This is, according to McCotter,
"the foundational verse for understanding children." He says, "When babies cry, it's really an act of selfishness... I don't think Jesus ever cried for milk for himself." At some point in the video, he transitions from "
foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child" to "
sin is bound up in the heart of a child."
Similar statements throughout the video are:
"...my child has sin bound in him, and it manifests itself through foolishness and silliness.
The only way I can get that out is with a rod."
"[Spanking is] the
only thing that God says in the Bible that I know of that will break that that's bound in the heart in the mind and the soul of the child."
"My child has sin bound in him, and it manifests itself through foolishness and silliness. The
only way I can get that out is with a rod."
"I don't believe biblically or experientially that there's any child who never needs spanking."
2. Psalm 32:8,9, "I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye. Do not be like the horse or like the mule, which have no understanding, which must be harnessed with bit and bridle, else they will not come near."
McCotter's take on this verse is that we either obey God voluntarily, or God will have to use physical means ("bit and bridle") to make us obey. And since a bit and bridle are physical restraints, they must refer to spanking.
3. Ephesians 6:4, "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."
Since the word "discipline" comes before the word "instruction" in this verse, it means that spanking has to come before instruction in dealing with a child.
My take on all this.
Personally, I find McCotter's handling of Scripture inept, and his attitude toward children heartless. I'm not taking a stand against spanking, per se. I'm just appalled at the idea that punishment--inflicting physical pain--is the first and foremost thing we need to be concerned with when it comes to children. Also, if spanking is the
only thing that will drive foolishness or sin from a child's heart, then what's the role of the Gospel? For that matter, isn't there an obvious connection between harsh, graceless spanking of children and harsh, graceless church discipline of adults? Don't both abuses spring from the same root in the abuser's heart?
EDIT TO ADD: For those who've asked whether McCotter taught bad
doctrine (as opposed to merely engaging in bad practices), here you go. We know that nothing short of regeneration can cleanse evil from our hearts. Works--our own or our parents'--can't do that.
One other interesting thing:
There have already been several forum posts about a tape on child discipline that McCotter allegedly made in the 70s, where he talks about leaving his kids black and blue.
On the tape, McCotter says, "When you discipline, this verse indicates, as others do, that you want to do it so it wounds. Now, when you say 'wounds,' it doesn't mean that you have a bloody mess on your hands necessarily. It doesn’t mean that you have a child 'wounding' like he has a broken leg." McCotter added in his taped sermon that this means you have been severe enough that the child's attitude at that point has been reversed. "And he may, and often will be, black and blue", McCotter continued. "My children have been many times. And it cleans evil from them."
McCotter actually comments on that statement in the Facebook video.
He says, "I had a psychology professor, Iowa state, said that I quoted that my children were bloody or something like this because of discipline, that I said that. I don't know that I ever said that... certainly you don't want to break any bones, you don't want to be cutting, or, or causing blood or anything like that."
He "doesn't know that he ever said that"... not a denial, but not exactly an innocent man's outraged demand for proof, either. Just a very strange response, IMO.