Opportunity to apologize

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[UffDa]

I can remember a time I meant to make a joke with some friends and my flippant cliche expression hit my friends in an area of their life that I didn’t know they were struggling with. I didn’t know until later that I had wounded them with my words and I needed to apologize. The hard part was knowing I needed to apologize, but I was not given the opportunity to apologize. They avoided me and wouldn’t return phone calls or emails. My last resort was to send a card with a specific apology. Through this I also learned that when someone offends me I need to let them know and give them an opportunity to apologize. It really helps in preventing holding grudges and holding onto hurt feelings. 
My hope with this thread is that if someone has offended you specifically on this forum you can give them the opportunity to apologize and move forward in a positive direction.

[Linda]

FYI: Between “Profile” and “Members” on the menu above, there is access to private messages for communications of that nature.

[araignee19]

Thanks for starting this thread. I do think calling out offenses is probably best done through private messages, or I could see this turning into an all out brawl very quickly. But if anyone has specific things they know hey should apologize for, this could be a good place to put it, or if items are address through PM, they could be shared here. I would personally hope everyone occasionally reads through their own posts and with new eyes to see how it may have sounded to others.

I will start by sharing an apology I have already given, because I think admitting when you are wrong is important (even if I don't like it). I already apologized for harsh words I said towards GTA in another post, and sent her a private message. But in keeping with how I believe publicly stated words should be publicly corrected, I also made an edit to the post and am sharing it here. I think this is a good practice, because it changes the tone of what you said both for the one you said it to, but also to others who may see the forum in the future. If there are other people I have offended (for anything other than honest difference of opinion), please feel free to message me.

http://forum.gcmwarning.com/general-discussion/if-youre-at-a-gcx-church-where-are-you/msg16677/#msg16677