You will probably be able to determine the sender of this letter. When I read it again, I laugh about how many positive things my former pastor had to say about my husband and none about me--and that is why I chose my username, that pastor considered me "a rebel, but in a good way." Uh, yeah, right, he *really* appreciated women who asked questions
So, this pastor, who has abused and excommunicated close family and friends of ours, really can't figure out why we would be angry? And he is owed an explanation. He "never really heard from us again" because even though he said he cared so much about us, as soon as we left GCC we were no longer of use to him. You know, the standard MO. But in their world, they are good and innocent and there is no reason anyone would be angry with him. And I'm lucky he didn't slander me.
"When you first started speaking out against my father I called Rob Gerber to ask who you and your [husband] were were. Do you know what he said? He said [husband] was one of the most faithful guys he'd ever met. Showing up early and staying late, setting up and tearing down. Mr. Faithful. He told me that he married the 2 of you, that [husband] left with you for school, and that he really never heard from either of you again and has no idea why you're so angry with him. He mentioned that [friend] was asked to leave the church, but he didn't tell me why. Rob had every chance to denigrate the 2 of you, to tell me juicy details, to give me his side of the story, and he didn't. I had every chance to pry and ask for those details and cajole them out of him, and I didn't. Incredibly, he had nothing but wonderful things to say about [husband]. I just thought you should know that. It's clear that my family and yours could not be further apart on what Christianity is, but in nearly every major religion and political system ever, working out your differences, face-to-face, with a person is a generally encouraged method of reconciliation and understanding. You guys owe it to Rob to at least tell him what he did..."