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Barry
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« on: September 01, 2009, 10:00:22 am »

I was A member Of Evergreen Community Church from 1988-1991..Bloomington,Mn...I was relentless I asked A lot of girls out from the church..you have to get to know some one .spend time with them..Mark Darling was always hanging all over the pretty girls..A many a time I was used as an example on his singles group ramblings and recordings..he just did not use my name specifically..yes..GCC is A Cult....
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« Reply #1 on: September 01, 2009, 10:45:38 am »

GC doesn't believe in dating so I'm sure you would have some difficulties if you "asked A lot of girls out from the church". Smiley Is this your only complaint against them?
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« Reply #2 on: September 02, 2009, 11:23:15 pm »

..I was A member of Evergreen..saying no to me was of little concern..did not deter me..If they said no..There was a lot of secret dating that went on..everyone knew..even some of my intersts..people would tell me..she is secretly seeing so and so...now that i realize things ...a lot of concepts and ideaolgy seems to be taken from the  Mormon Church as Having watched  the show  Big Love on HBO..
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« Reply #3 on: September 03, 2009, 12:16:29 am »

Hurt...when everyone knows every detail in your past...area's you have failed in life..your past romances..you open up in a small group to 8 to 10 people in confidence..or your household roomates..it's like telling the whole church..because pretty soon everyone knows..gossip..Idle Chatter..or trusted friends reporting regular to their Elders..pretty soon you feel betrayed..and wish you would have never opened up and just left your closet door shut...some people..maybe for their own good should have kept those things inside...But I know when I taught Children there was a genuine love and nurturing..because they are innocent..having not faced heartache,turmoil,addictions,anxiety,depression and stress of everyday life..So thats what we should strive to be ...Innocent....because Guilt and having a Conscience is our biggest obstacle in Life..as for me I feel i'm innocent and free of sin..always giving of myself,sacrifices great and small..and to make a difference in peoples lives..for me my greatest Glory would to be with  Heavenly Angel's in a greater realm of Life..My greatest humility and serving would be to wash the feet of Jesus Christ and anoint them with Oil..
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« Reply #4 on: September 03, 2009, 06:06:37 am »

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Hurt...when everyone knows every detail in your past...area's you have failed in life..your past romances..you open up in a small group to 8 to 10 people in confidence..or your household roommates..it's like telling the whole church..because pretty soon everyone knows..gossip..Idle Chatter..or trusted friends reporting regular to their Elders..pretty soon you feel betrayed..and wish you would have never opened up and just left your closet door shut...some people..maybe for their own good should have kept those things inside...
Nice to meet you Barry. We were at ECC from 1995 -2005. Strangely, I had no idea that all this "reporting" was happening. We were small group leaders the last two years, but never reported to anyone! Not even sure who was "over" us. I think they were trying to emphasize small groups and the thing took off so they were desperate for leaders and we came along.

For anyone who was ever in our small group, I just want you to know that we never reported anything to anyone!

It does make me glad, however, that as far as I can remember, I never said anything to anyone in small group that I wouldn't care if the world knew. One thing I gained from my experience there is to never trust anyone unless you have known them for a really long time (and they aren't in a high control religious group!)

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« Reply #5 on: September 03, 2009, 09:01:11 am »

..I did not really care what people thought of me..but that one area..wanting to date and Marry..it caused me a lot of grief...to hear that girls in the Church  were told to avoid me..that was a deeply negative  issue for me..on the other hand a lot of accolades for the things i did and the person i was..People told me i was the nicest guy in the world..when i exposed personal things..people were dissapointed..they said they thought i had it all together..but thats cool ,they would say..i'm glad you opened up..I felt exposed..even though i felt invincible..because everyone knew all my faults and weaknesses ..I did not grow..this in fact..after a while took a toll on my spirit and who i was...Maybe the problem was with me..I dont know..but I reached out..but no one took my hand..to tell me i was loved and to show me the way home..
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« Reply #6 on: September 20, 2018, 02:23:45 am »

Me..a Ghost from the Past....Evergreen Church...you hurt me and others...may God have mercy on you....
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« Reply #7 on: September 20, 2018, 03:07:34 am »

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“Maybe the problem was with me..I dont know..but I reached out..but no one took my hand..to tell me i was loved and to show me the way home.”

I am so sorry Barry.
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« Reply #8 on: September 20, 2018, 03:48:07 am »

Thanks Linda..God Bless
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